My second "Home "

“Jodhpur” a city endowed with a rich culture and flourished with vibrant and rich orgies of colour. Few months ago I used to find this city with a different magnetic pole of mine. There was a time when I really wanted to be posted in this city. The city used to look like a spectrum of beautiful colours. But suddenly everything vanished and I found I was so wrong there is nothing so amazing about the city and I started finding it nothing more than the colour of a chessboard. Now comes the moment when I had to be posted here and I had to say just two words... God why? I've no one there.

I’m not writing this piece because I want to praise or curse this city. I just want to share how this place became one of my favourite destinations and I’m sure I’ll miss this place whenever I’ll leave it.  So what is the secret of my happiness and joy here? I stepped in this city without any expectation of happiness. I was depressed. I had nothing in my life except office- PG-office. Here 5 angels of my life stepped in my life – my pg mates.  They didn’t know me well but they started teasing me, with such words like boring and dull. They asked me “are you really this much boring”, “from where did you click these beautiful pictures”? “Are these your real pictures? We don’t believe”.  They always used to throw taunts on me. Enough was enough I realised that I’m ruining my life.  Within 2 days I changed and became their “Item” if I’ll use their word. Now I could make them happy whenever I find them dull. They taught me how to be stable in life with all the rue around.  I started keep myself busy with them. Though I have a separate room but still all the time you can find me in their room.  Though we are from different states Rajasthan, Haryana, Uttar Pradesh, Bihar and Madhya Pradesh, we just follow one culture that is humanism and we’re still in love with each other. Outside we are the most sophisticated ladies but within our comfort zone we fight like wild animals. Sitting in the same room we chat on what’s app. We are crazy, we are wild but for the outside world we are classy. I just love being with them. They all are just another me.  These are the angels who made me fall in love with the life I have. I don’t only love them; I respect them from core of my heart.  They thought me what friendship is, what care is, what love is and what life is. In short they are my small family here who made my PG a “home”.

Kickshaw of life

The biggest learning from my 25 year old life is “being a bright student doesn’t always help”.  There are so many secret ingredients behind a successful life. In my opinion major contributor to a beautiful life is “LUCK”. It’s not about bad luck it’s all about how you face it. Actually there is nothing called a permanent bad luck. 

Life has no magic mantra.  No matter what you do, at least 1 out of 10 decisions are going to be wrong.  The 1 which went wrong couldn’t have been better. It’s the result of the equation created at that time. Remember -never ever regret, live with the decision you made once or apply "perseverance"-this is the key to good luck.   I understand that it’s easy to write but difficult to live with that moment when you realize that you are actually in the –X-Y axis.  But the kind of attitude you show at that time when you’re actually in negative proves your strength.

Be humble, be human, and be grounded.  One should always live close to the nature.  Nature is same for everyone, it’s unbiased. It’ll restrict you from being a high nosy.  All these things are inter related in our personal and professional life.  Each event in the life creates dots in itself. We should be able to connect dots together. You can’t be happy if any one of the two Ps (Personal and Professional) goes wrong. Be balanced. You should know which line should be created to make a better graph of life. May be in the 3^rd decade of life you feel 2^nd P, which is professional life is more important and it can change in the 4^th decade.  Whatever you want, just make a decision and life with it. It could be a trade off, but then its life.

I gave more importance to the 2^nd P and today I’ve to sacrifice time for my family. Living away from family is not easy. If you think it’s about money, just forget it.  Money is the driver, the joy and satisfaction that lead to drive. Money part is not as glamorous as it looks from outside. There are lots of heart burns, tears. It takes away your comforts, sometimes its a very lonely ride as a single professional. It’s stressful, no back outs. It can make you a tough person. You have to take hard decisions, even if you can’t trust anyone. You’ll find lots of stones on your way. Analyze each stone,. Don’t step on wrong stone it can hurt. Just balance, when you walk in the way of life. Your life will be changed and beautiful.